I knew absolutely nothing about business, marketing, blogging, or making money online a few years ago.
I didn’t grow up around entrepreneurs. I didn’t grow up selling lemonade, with an entrepreneurial spirit.
I grew up wanting to be a lawyer. I always wanted to be a lawyer.
Until I didn’t.
I quit practicing law. I became a financial planner. I quit financial planning. I became an online entrepreneur.
At each step of the way, I’m creating my future from my imagination, not my past.
I don’t know what I’m doing. But I’m doing it. I’m taking action and figuring it out as I go.
What is it that you want from your future? What do you think is possible? If you could do or be anything?
Take a look at your life. Your home, your family, your job, your health, your money. You created all of it with your mind.
No matter where you are in your life right now, it’s time to start dreaming again.
There is no downside to possibility thinking.
You will grow, learn, and/or succeed. You won’t stay the same.
That’s what you can discover how to do in this episode.
Here are more of my favorite resources on possibility:
- How I Created A Six Figure Business Out Of My Imagination (blog post)
- How To Use Your Imagination (blog post)
- Tracking Your Goal Progress (YouTube video)
- How To Live An Intentional Life (free training)
- Grow You (coaching)
Full What Is Possible Episode Transcript
Welcome to the Design Your Dream Life podcast where it’s all about designing your life on your terms and now your host, Natalie Bacon.
Hello. Hello. Hello. I want to start off by saying thank you. Yes, you who is listening right now. You mean so much to me. It has been amazing to get feedback on this podcast. I am so grateful. I feel like we spend our mornings together, whether it’s commuting or having coffee or whatever. You guys tell me all the time and it seriously means so much to me. I get it.
I have those podcasts I listen to and love so much. So I just want to say thanks and I hope you are having a fantastic year and month and week and day and morning and if you’re feeling busy or overwhelmed or like you had a lot going on, I just want you to take a minute and forget all of it for the next however long, half hour. I really want you to just dream big and I want you to think about what is possible.
It’s so funny. When we are growing up we are taught to, you know, dream big, right? What do you want to be when you grow up? We’re always being asked that, what do you want to be when you, grow up. We are taught to go to college and maybe to get married and have kids or whatever it is. That’s the story that you were taught to believe in and then kind of hit this peak where we are either in our 20s or 30s or even forties where it’s like, okay, now what? Now we’re looking back at the good old days and we’re not dreaming or like putting out fires in our personal lives and just trying to make it to the next freaking vacation. And I want to encourage you to think differently about your future and I want you to know that you don’t have to think this way.
You can dream as big as you did when you were younger and you can have greater results than you’ve ever had in your life. It’s really, really awesome. You probably know my story by now, but if you don’t, I graduated law school with $206,000 in student loan debt and I decided to start a blog about it.
I knew literally nothing about business. Now everyone today knows me as you know, someone who works for herself and runs an online business, right? They just think of me as this person. But when I was a lawyer starting a blog and I knew nothing about business, no one thought of me as a blogger, let alone someone who makes money on the internet. I had to believe in myself and believe that it was possible for me, even though I had no evidence for it at all.
Like I wasn’t, you know, sellin’ lemonade. I wasn’t the person who had this like entrepreneurial spirit, like I was always going to be a lawyer. That was my story in my head. So I had to literally believe that it was possible before I had any evidence of it. And I had to do that with like a ton of student loan debt. And I just really want you to know that I just decided that I could do it.
No evidence, no proof, like no one was helping me. I just decided that I’m going to do it. I’m going to do it. Like there’s another person on this planet who has done it. In fact, there’s a lot of other people, so like, why not me? And so I just believed that it was possible and it took that unwavering belief for me to get to where I am today, which over the course of a few years, it’s now become my full time job.
It’s now a six figure business and will be a seven figure business. Now, I haven’t made seven figures before, right? But I’m choosing to believe that it’s possible. Like I’m just believing it’s possible. I don’t know how right you, you know, I love the quote. How is none of your business, right? You can just believe because you want to believe. Now what we’ll do is crazy. We will literally not believe in the thing we want because we think we won’t get it. So like we’re literally not believing in what we want to believe.
It’s so crazy. And your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings create your actions and your actions create your results. So what you think and feel is going to determine the actions that you take and the results you get. So if you’re literally not believing that you can do whatever it is you want to do, then you’re not going to create that result.
It’s like a self fulfilling prophecy. It’s crazy. It’s like failing ahead of time. Now my entire personality is different. It has changed. I have grown so much compared to who I was when I was an attorney before I even started a blog to where I am now, like night and day. And I couldn’t have predicted the how, but I believed anyway.
And I’m telling you that growth alone and going through that has made the journey more than worth it in ways that I never could have predicted. Now, depending on your personality, you might be inspired right now and be, you know, thinking, yes, that’s me. Or you might be like, okay, easy for you to say. Or you might have some other thought in your head, but I want to offer you that the only way that anything new is ever created is by believing that it’s possible.
So if you ever think about new modern technology, you know, think about like your iPhone or your MacBook or your car, right? How was a car first created? How was a computer first engineered, right? How is an iPhone invented? Right? Someone had to think of it from the future and create it like it existed in the mind first because it has not existed in the past, right?
There was nothing in the past to recreate it. So really think about that. Okay, so whatever it is you want, a lot of times they’ll say, Oh, I want to start an online business and make six figures, seven figures, whatever. But I’ve like never done that before as if that’s a reason not to believe that it’s possible for you in the future. Totally not true. You can absolutely and should absolutely believe in what you want.
You will figure it out. How does anything get created, right? If someone never thought that the iPhone was possible, if someone never believed that an airplane was possible, how would it get created? Right? You have to believe in it first and then you have to develop it. And how do you do that? By doing, by trying, by failing over and over again. I am telling you, you just get used to it.
That’s why the failures don’t mean anything. It’s like, Oh, that didn’t work. Keep going. Don’t make it mean anything. But you have to keep believing in the end result. The problem is when you make those failures and obstacles mean something about your ability to get the end result. When you do that, then you will stop and that is where you get into trouble. So I want to really encourage you, like just ask yourself like what do you believe is possible for your future?
Like what do you want most? What do you want most next year? What do you want most in three years, in five years, in 10 years at the end of your life? And write this down. Like this is so important. I cannot tell you how important it is. It’s more important than anything else in your life because this is going to create your future. This is the trajectory of your life, right?
If you don’t design it, you will just wander wherever you land. You’ll probably create more of the past. You will just kind of get stuck in probably some buffering, some escaping over eating, over drinking, you know, kind of like that complacency where you’re overseeing pleasure because you’re not focused on creating new results in your future. Our brains love to focus on something in the future. It gives us purpose. We feel energized about it.
Like I love having goals. Like I feel so energized about it. It’s okay if I fail. Like a lot of times people are hung up on announcing their goals to the world because they don’t want to fail or they’re nervous about it or being a beginner and there are little nerves at first, but that doesn’t mean you don’t do it. Like I do it all the time and I’m like, Oh, if I don’t get it, I don’t get it. Like, I don’t make it mean anything, right?
So just remember that if people give you a hard time or they’re not understanding, like one thing I love to say is like, just let people be wrong about you. Like, Oh, they’re just wrong about me. That’s okay. And it gives you this freedom to not feel like you have to defend yourself. Like defend your honor.
You can just let them be wrong about you. I’m like, okay, well they’re wrong about me. That’s fine. That’s okay. And I can just believe whatever I want about my future. Like they’re wrong. And when you really get to believing, that’s like magic because then someone will say something and you’re like, Oh no, that’s wrong. Like, Oh, I’ll be a seven figure business owner. Like have you ever been around someone and you know that they’re going to get the result that they’re talking about because they believe it’s so hard. Like that is magic.
That’s where you want to get. So practice believing in what you want is possible for your future. Right? And you start by thinking like, what’s possible for me? What is really possible? Keep in mind that as you do this, your brain is going to resist, okay? So once you practice this and get good at it, it might be easy for you to imagine what’s possible.
But in the beginning you are going to be met with your old thought patterns, which might not be that supportive of creating a new future. So your brain might go into freak out mode and it’s going to want to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and be efficient. So it wants to repeat the past, right? So anytime you set a big goal in the future based on something that you believe is possible, but that you haven’t done before, your brain is going to freak out because your brain just wants to repeat the past, right?
So it’s super efficient to repeat the past and it knows that you’ve stayed alive up to this point. So your brain wants to keep you alive. It wants to repeat the past. Even if your past to you is not worth repeating, that just wants you to just stay inside. Not do anything else, but repeat what you’ve already done.
You have to know that the fear or the nerves or whatever emotions you’re experiencing are just coming from your primitive brain not knowing what’s next. Okay? It’s just a survival mechanism. It doesn’t mean anything. I was coaching someone today and she’s thinking about quitting her full time job, and she had so much fear about it, but when she was making the decision from her prefrontal cortex and thinking clearly it was very clear this is what she wanted to do.
But when she started to take action, all this fear would come up and she was making the fear mean that she was making the wrong decision. And what I encouraged her to think about was why she was giving the fear that meaning. So fear doesn’t mean that something’s gone wrong or that you’ve made a bad decision, or that you should reconsider your decision. It’s just an emotion, right?
So your brain doesn’t have evidence of this new journey of this new business of whatever it is you’re creating from your future. So it’s going to freak out. You do not have to make that mean anything. You don’t have to make it mean something’s gone wrong. When I quit my jobs both times, I was a wreck. I never once wavered. I just said, okay, fear, I see you there. It’s fine.
But I created my future from my future and my only regret is not doing it sooner. Like running your own business is freaking awesome. Let me just tell you, it is amazing. And I, you know, I remember having all those objections, like it’s like freaking healthcare. I don’t know why we think like healthcare is going to be this monster in the US for me. Um, it, I don’t know why I just made it such a big deal.
It was literally the easiest thing to get and no problem at all. So a lot of times we’ll make up these obstacles as reasons for why we shouldn’t do something new, but really they’re not reasons at all. And I just want you to become aware of that and make sure that whatever it is you decide to do, you like your reason for it. So when we talk about what is possible, I want you to think about it from your future, not from your past, right?
You’ve done whatever you’ve done up to this point based on you know, your life. But what do you want from your future, right? Do you want to lose 75 pounds? Someone will say like, okay, well I just want to lose 10 pounds because setting the goal of losing 75 would just be too big. But like really they want to lose 75 pounds.
So they’re literally not believing in what they want because they think it’s going to be too hard or they don’t know how. But I really want to encourage you to just believe in your future, whatever it is you really want. Like you don’t have to tell anyone. It can just be between you and me. Write it down somewhere. Like dare to dream really, really big and have the courage to imagine what is possible for you because you are only going to get this one shot to design your dream life from your future.
And I will say that the more you do this, the easier it gets because you’ll start to recognize those emotions and you’ll say, okay, well that’s just fear. This is normal. My brain, my body just you know, is in this habit of freaking out. It doesn’t mean anything until I give it meaning.
I want you to look around your environment, look at your home, look at your clothes, look at your computer, look at your car. You created it in your mind before it came to your reality, right? So how were those things created? You thought about them and then you took action to get them right. So how we get any result in our life is from the actions that we take.
The reasons that we take actions are from how we feel and how we feel is based on how we think. So when you understand that formula, you can use it to your advantage to create from your future. I want you to know that not knowing how is not a good enough reason for you to not believe whatever you want to believe is possible. So let’s say you want to double your income, but you just keep thinking it’s not possible for you or you don’t know how or whatever excuse you’re giving.
That is going to be the reason that you don’t do it. And what I want to encourage you to think is something supportive, so how could I double my income this year? Or how could it be possible for me to get a new job or a raise or reframe it as a question that supports the result you want. But you have to be honest with yourself. Like we’re all not wanting the things that we actually want, like for fear of not getting them. So it’s like a self fulfilling prophecy. Like Oh no, no, this is like my favorite.
Like I don’t really want to be that rich. Like I don’t want to make a lot of money. I just want to be comfortable. Like okay, I know what your results going to be like. I want to make a lot of money. Like I love money.
Like it’s great. I like my money. I love logging into my bank account. I like having money. I like making money. We have a fantastic relationship with money and it wasn’t always that way. But I can always tell so much about money mindset from someone who says, you know, I just want to be comfortable. I don’t want to be, have a lot of money. But like really like is that really true? And like why? Like if you’re going to want like why not just want a lot of money?
Like it’s fine. It doesn’t mean anything until you give it meaning, right? So you just, just be careful about what you’re saying because what you’re saying is coming from your brain. And we literally are in the habit of, of saying things that don’t actually support the future that we want to create. So I’m a very intentional now about deciding what it is I want in each area of my life and then coming up with like thoughts and beliefs that support that goal.
And that help me create my future from my future. Right? So anything is possible for you. And I want you to know that this doesn’t just mean that like you’re going to succeed no matter what. Like you’re going to have failures. Remember you’re going to have problems. Problems are forever. But what I find is that people aren’t, you know, thinking about the failures, right? They’re not thinking about that.
They’re kind of just living in mediocre and like fear. And so they’re not imagining at all. And I want to let you know that if you imagine from your future and you decide that you want something so great and let’s say, let’s say you want to start a six figure business in the next year or you want to hit six figures with your income, your online business, and you do all these things and you take all these actions and you don’t get it.
Like so what? Like you still believed in it and you still took action and I guarantee you you grew so much. Like even if you fail, you will learn, right? If I never set the goal to become a certified financial planner, I never would have became one. But I also failed the first time I took the test. Now I could’ve made that failure mean I shouldn’t take the test again or I’m not cut out for this.
Or I could’ve like dwelled in self pity or whatever. But no, I was just like, okay, guess I gotta take it again. And that was despite everyone. And I mean everyone telling me, how did that happen? You pass the bar the first time you took it, right? Like super fun. No, I just decided that I wasn’t going to let it mean anything, even though everyone else made it mean something.
So know that having these beliefs and deciding what you want for your future doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. The way you think it’s going to happen. Doesn’t mean it’s going to happen on your own timeline. And usually it happens differently than how you think it’s going to happen. But usually it does happen one way or another. You just might have some bumps along the way. And even if you fail, you grow so much.
It’s when you stagnate and you stay the same and you repeat your past and you don’t, you know, grow that you kind of like lose yourself and you’re living in mediocre and it’s where the buffering and the escaping comes in. So just know that you can create your future from your future and believe that anything is possible. Like I did it. It’s not easy. I’m still doing it right at each stage.
I do it again and it is crazy. It’s so much fun. Um, I will tell you there’s ups and downs, but it makes you a possibility thinker. It makes you someone who is in charge and in control of their own life instead of reacting to their life. I remember a Michael Hyatt quote, I love it. It’s like most people spend more time planning a one week vacation than they do planning their lives. Something like that.
And I think this is so true, right? Like how many of you listening know what vacations you’re taking, right? Have you been that intentional with your goals? Have you created your future from your future? And are you going to continue to do that monthly, quarterly, annually, just like you would a vacation. Now I will tell you I am the opposite. I love setting goals. I love it and I hate planning my own travel.
It’s literally one of the things I like least. But if you love planning your travel, I hope that you plan your life just as intentionally. So now I want to tell you the five ways that I think you can improve your thinking to become more of like a possibility thinkers. So thinking about what is possible from your future.
The first step is to become aware. So like pay attention to your current thinking and feelings with respect to your goals, your dreams, your future. Like are you joking about not having enough money? Are you joking about being broke? Like what are, what are the words you say? What are the words people say around you? Don’t start trying to change other people. Just notice it and just become the watcher. Catch yourself being negative or saying limiting beliefs, right? That first step is the awareness and then become so aware that you actually change it.
The second step is to change your environment to kind of promote the future that you want. So what I like to do for this is to change the media that you intake to reflect your new future. For example, I recently stopped following a ton of Instagram parody accounts that are really like negative and cynical and they’re freaking hilarious. Let me tell you like it took a lot for me to stop doing this, but what it was was I thought about Natalie in five years, like a, what does she think about? What is she act like? How does she feel? What is her life like? Where does she live? What does she watch? What does she listen to, all this stuff.
And I realized that I am not becoming her by following these certain accounts. So I stopped doing that. It’s not just Instagram, it’s any type of media that you intake, like the podcasts that you listen to, the TV that you watch, anything that you can control in your environment that kind of goes into your brain. Make sure it supports the future that you want and then get around other people you know, join networking groups or online platforms, whatever, or go to conferences. Anything that you can do to get around people, change your environment to promote the future that you want is going to help you create it so much faster.
Next way is to read books that support the future that you want. Any like, I have a recommended book list. If you go to NatalieBacon.com/books-I-recommend, that’s Natalie bacon.com/books-I-recommend with dashes in between the words you will find my complete recommended book list. This is a good list for you to look at for personal development books, finance books, online business books, blogging books, that sort of stuff. But whatever it is, if it’s relationships or I don’t know, whatever health you want in your future start reading those books you want to. The reason this is important, same with step two is that you’re filling your mind with thoughts that support the thinking that you want to have in your future.
So step four is for you to actually write as if you’re that person. So what I like to do is spend time every morning journaling as someone who I want to be five years from now, or it doesn’t have to be five years, but one year from now, three years from now, five years from now, what are you thinking and feeling, right? What do you think about as this person?
So if you want to start an online business and make six figures when you are that person, you know what? You’re not thinking about how to make six figures. Yeah. So I am a six figure online business owner. I do not sit around and think about how to make six figures.
I’m sitting around thinking about how to make seven figures. And I will tell you that the person who makes seven figures is not thinking about how to make seven figures. So for me, what I’ve had to do is think about people who make 1 million bucks a year, that $83,333 a month number and think about what are they thinking about, right? If they’re not thinking about how to make a million, what are they thinking about?
So what I’ve done is I’ve gotten around people who already make $1 million a year and I’m listening to them and I’m paying attention to them and I’m noticing their thoughts and feelings around money and their business and how they’re doing it. So what you want to do is think about that goal. Think about who you want to become and start to think like that person and not just think like that person, but actually feel the feelings that that person would experience.
So you know, if you’re worried about making six figures, right? That is not the feeling that a six figure business owner would have, right? Like maybe they would feel steady or confident or whatever. The point is to just journal as if you’re this person so that you can practice becoming that person ahead of time.
And I learned this from the book, Breaking the Habit of Becoming Yourself by Joe Dispenza. Amazing, amazing book. And I love the line in there. He says you go from cause and effect to causing an effect, right? So your environment isn’t causing the effect on you. You go to causing the effect or result in your environment.
Finally it create a dream life vision. So I want you to test out your willingness to become this possibility thinker and I want you to write down what is your vision for your future five years from now, 10 years from now, 20 years from now, where do you live? How much money do you have and make? What’s your family like?
So I want you to be really generous with yourself and know that no one else is going to see this and I really want you to be honest. So a lot of people will say like they want a modest house and whatever right there. It’s like a lot of times it’s like around money, but really they want like all the nice and fancy things, but they’re like thinking that they can’t have all the nice and fancy things.
If you want nice and fancy things, you can just write down that you want to have nice and fancy things like it’s okay, you can want to have whatever you want. Like that is just beautiful. I love that. Like don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. So dream big and create your future based on what you want.
Knowing that you are the person who is going to create an amazing future. Not you know your circumstances, not anyone else. And this is like so great to know. So I want you to take a look at your life and do these exercises, especially at the start of a new year, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be any time of year. I have never seen something work so well as I have in the last year because 2017 kind of sucked for me. And so I made sure 2018 was going to be my best year ever.
And I was so intentional. I was so laser focused. I created my future from my future. I didn’t worry about the how and I, I believed in what was possible, even though there was no evidence to support it. And I’m going to continue to do that. Yes, bad things happen.
Tragedies happen. But that’s not the reason why we’re not dreaming. Right? Like, we’re not sitting around thinking like this horrible tragedy might happen and someone might die or I might get this illness. Like we’re just thinking, Oh well, I don’t know how to make the money, or I don’t know how to lose the weight. So you know, I just want to do a little bit. Okay, so you can’t predict what’s going to happen.
Those tragedies, those unexpected events, so you have no reason not to go for it and really, really believe in yourself that you can create your future from your future. I know that you can do it and I want to be there with you to support you. So go to Nataliebacon.com/dreamlifetraining, all one word and I will help you do it in my seven day free training. Okay? Make it an amazing week. I will see you next time.
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