Imagine you’re in a relationship.
This relationship is full of joy, provides you with countless good memories, and fills you with pride.
When you think of this relationship, is it a person that pops into your head first?
What if I told you that this could be how you feel about your relationship with money?
Not a bad thought, right?
The truth is, this is possible. And since money will play a large part in your life as long as you’re a functioning human on Earth, it’s worth the time and discomfort to learn how to change your relationship with money for the better (I say discomfort because it’s not necessarily easy).
The sooner you start to have an abundant relationship with money, the sooner your money struggles will go away.
I used to have a scarcity mindset when it came to my money.
When I made these small but impactful money mindset shifts, I went from feeling like I couldn’t hold on to my money to having more than enough.
Whether you want to make more money or learn to appreciate the money you have now, you can apply these mindset hacks to make a huge difference in your life with money.
Here’s a look at the best money mindset shifts you can make right now that made a huge difference in my life…
If you want to listen instead of read, here’s the podcast episode that goes along with this post — Your Relationship With Money.
1. I stopped saying I don’t have enough money.
Your thoughts have a lot to do with what amount of money is currently in your bank account.
Any time you say there’s “not enough” it’s coming from scarcity thinking.
Scarcity thinking is not based on actual dollars and is a thought pattern that’s totally optional.
When I decided to believe that the amount of money I had was enough, it wasn’t long until there actually was.
I devoted two entire courses to this idea because it’s key to changing the way you think and feel about money. If you’re looking to learn how to make more money, feel less stressed, and learn how to coach yourself when it comes to money for the rest of your life, these courses are a great place to start.
Money mindset courses I recommend:
2. I started giving my money attention.
Your money deserves your time and attention just like any other relationship you have in your life.
I heard Big Sean (yes, the rapper) say in a song recently…
The quickest way to let something die is lack of attention.
Can I get an Amen?!
The attention you give your money matters.
The time you spend with it, the better acquainted you become and the easier it is to manage it.
Are you checking your bank account often?
Are you learning more about investing and saving?
Are you giving away money with a generous mindset?
These are important questions that you should check in with often.
Your money loves your attention and your relationship will be better off when you give it often.
3. I practiced thinking how much I like my money.
Money isn’t bad or evil.
Money is neutral. It doesn’t have meaning until you give it meaning.
Without money, you can’t do most of what you love to do.
You have so many reasons to like your money and it’s important to get clear on what those reasons are.
Does it help you buy gas for the car that you pay for that you drive to visit your friends?
Does it buy a thoughtful gift for someone close to you on their birthday?
Does it pay for your health insurance to keep you safe?
When you find the reasons why you like your money, you may be very surprised just how strong your feelings grow.
4. I asked my brain questions to help me move to abundance.
Going from the scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset is a powerful shift.
You can absolutely train your brain to think from a place of abundance and the way to help yourself do that is to ask the right questions.
Your brain wants to find answers.
Definitely check out these resources for learning how to use the Questions tool:
- Life Hack: Ask Your Mind Questions (podcast)
- How To Ask Your Mind Questions And Create Answers That Change Your Life (blog post)
- The Life Hack I Used To Get Into An $18k Coaching Program (blog post)
When you use this tool, you’ll find answers that you couldn’t have access to otherwise. It’s a life changer.
If you’re in a place of scarcity, this thinking will only multiply because your thoughts create your feelings which then create your reality.
Here are a few examples of questions that you can ask yourself to move into an abundance mindset…
- How can I like my money more?
- How can I make more money?
- How can I appreciate my money?
Here’s an entire list of 11 Money Mindset Questions to ask yourself. Highly recommend them!
5. I stopped connecting with other people over money problems.
Misery loves company and money woes are a very easy topic to connect with other people about.
Everyone has money problems at some point in their life, big or small.
By connecting with people over money problems, you are only reinforcing that where you are is your reality when it simply doesn’t have to be the case.
I stopped relating to people about money problems or money struggles and it freed up a lot of mental space to be thinking of ways to bring more money in.
Notice this if you do it. Stop yourself. Don’t connect with others about money problems.
6. I began treating my money like someone I really like.
You know how you feel about your best friend or new crush?
It’s time to consider your money in the same way.
Treat your money like you support it — have your money’s back.
Your money is your friend and it deserves your love and respect.
Your relationship with money matters.
I talk about this and teach you how to have an amazing relationship with money in the Free Money Mindset Course.
Start treating it like someone you really like and your relationship with money will change.
7. I started giving away money from a place of generosity.
Giving away money from a place of actually wanting to, knowing that more is coming, feels AMAZING.
It’s important to give back to your community and charities that you believe in.
When you know your money is going to a good cause, it may feel nice to make a difference, but it’s easy to get caught up in worrying about when you’re going to get that money back.
When you give money away from a place of generosity, this worry goes away and you’re left with a feeling of doing good and feeling good too. (Listen to this podcast to learn more about how to be more generous.)
You know you’re doing it right because it will feel good.
8. I practiced holding onto my money – just because it’s money (not for what it can get me).
While giving feels amazing when done from true generosity, it’s also important to hold onto money from abundance.
If you want money for what it can get you, you’re missing the point.
You have to learn how to have money. This is something I teach in the Having Money Podcast.
When you think about your money, sometimes the first thought you may have is about something it can buy.
Try holding onto your money just for the sake of it.
You have to increase your capacity to have money, just because it’s money.
If this sounds weird or different to you, that’s totally normal. It’s not how we’re taught to think about money. But learning this and doing this work will have a profound impact on your future with money. I know this because it’s been the case for me.
When you hold on to your money because you want to instead of because you feel the need to, you’ll realize that this comes from a place of feeling good and comfortable with it.
9. I stopped talking negatively about money.
I love money.
I love my money and I’m not afraid to talk about it.
I mean that I feel love when I think about money.
This isn’t greed. This isn’t obsession.
It’s simply a feeling.
What feeling comes up for you when you relate to your money?
When I stopped talking negatively about my money, eventually there was nothing negative to say.
I don’t complain about my money.
Of course there are going to be surprises here or there, like an unexpected expense, but there is no need to make it a negative experience or complain about it.
Stop the negative money talk in the same way you would stop the negative self talk.
10. I choose how I feel about the money in my bank account.
When you log into your bank account, how are you feeling?
Do you avoid doing this because it brings up negative feelings?
I make sure when I log into my accounts, that I decide ahead of time how I want to feel, regardless of the money in the accounts.
This is SO IMPORTANT.
It’s something I teach in Money Mindset For Her at length.
Let’s be clear… it’s not your money’s job to make you happy — it’s your job to do that.
You get to decide how you feel about your money because you choose your thoughts about it.
Next time you go to log into your bank account, consider how you want to feel.
Do you want to love the number in your account? How about excited?
All of this is completely within your power, and the more you do it, the better you’ll come to feel about the money in your bank account.
11. I started believing I could make any amount of money I wanted.
You’ll be hard pressed to find a book that tells you to quit practicing your job as an attorney when you have six figure student loan debt to take a 50% pay cut as a financial planner, then quit that job and build your blog into an online business.
But because I learned how to create my future from my future, I did all those things.
Now, I have a multiple six figure online business (tripling my income in 2018) that I’m growing to seven figures.
When I learned how to trust myself and think better instead of recreating my past, I was able to scale my income exponentially and continue to do so.
Side note – I highly recommend rewriting your past with money. You can learn how to rewrite your past in this podcast episode.
There is no limit to the amount of money you can make, you just need to believe in it and more importantly, believe in yourself.
I show you exactly how to think about making more money in this podcast episode: How Much Money Can You Really Make.
A Final Note!
As long as you’re here with us on Earth living with the humans (as I like to say), money will be a part of your experience.
You can have an amazing relationship with money.
It’s totally up to you.
Join me in Money Mindset For Her, and I’ll show you exactly how.