Mindset hacks

Is there something in your life where you don’t have enough?

Not enough money.

Not enough time.

Not enough attention.

Not enough love.

Whatever it is, you just feel like there’s not enough.

That’s the definition of scarcity—thinking there’s not enough of something.

Scarcity is when something is lacking. It can be in any area of your life. It’s kind of… the worst.

I used to be in scarcity with everything, most notably my money. Over time, I completely shifted my thoughts about money (debt included), and I went from feeling like I never had enough money to always having more than enough. Now, money is easy. It’s a beautiful thing.

And now I want to help you do it, too.

Whatever area of your life where you have scarcity (where there’s not enough), you can apply these mindset hacks to shift from scarcity to abundance.

If you want to listen instead of read, here’s the podcast episode that goes along with this post — Mindset Hacks.

 

13 Mindset Hacks

 

1. Become aware of what you’re thinking.

Watch your thoughts.

You’re not your brain.

This is just good to know.

And when you really know it, you become the watcher. Instead of thinking your thoughts control you, you’ll notice that they’re just there and that you are separate from them.

Every mindset change starts with awareness.

 

2. Decide intentionally what you want to believe.

Your brain has been programmed unconsciously. From your childhood up to five minutes ago—all your experiences, modeling, and conditioning have contributed to how your brain is programmed.

I love thinking of the brain like a computer because it makes more sense to me how it can be “programmed” and reprogrammed.

Just like a computer, your brain can be reprogrammed You can decide to change it.

What do you want to think?

Tell your brain what to focus on. If you don’t, your brain will default to what it’s good at. What it’s good at is what it has done a lot of, which may not be creating the results you want in your life.

So, decide what results you want. Decide only to say yes to things that move you in that direction.

 

3. Use affirmations.

Use affirmations to help with the reprogramming.

This means coming up with sentences that you believe that move you from where you are now to where you want to go.

The trick with affirmations is to make sure you believe them.

For example, repeating something you don’t believe at all (but want to believe, in theory), could have the opposite effect.

So, just make sure it’s something you can believe in.

Here are examples of affirmations I’m digging right now…

  • Nothing has gone wrong.
  • Nothing is too good to be true.
  • Bad things are supposed to happen.
  • Money is easy.
  • Love is easy.
  • I’m fun.
  • I have my own back no matter what.
  • People are always making the best decision they can.

 

4. Ask your brain questions.

Ask your brain questions that support the answer you want.

I talked about this in my post where I used the Questions tool to get into an $18k coaching program without paying for it.

I also talk about it here in this podcast episode.

Questions is one of my favorite mindset hacks.

Just make sure you only ask questions you want answer to. So, don’t go asking, “why am I so broke?” instead ask, “how can I make more money?”

It’s like magic.

 

5. Practice being your future self.

When you practice thinking and feeling like your future self who has already accomplished or become who you want to be, your world changes so fast.

If you want to be someone who’s lost weight or made $1 million, then start to think like a person who already has lost 50lbs and made the money.

Notice that a person who’s lost 50lbs isn’t really thinking about food. And a person who has made $1 million isn’t thinking about how to make a million.

I use this mindset hack every day with a trigger. So, when I’m in the shower, I always imagine I’m the $2M business owner. I think about what she thinks about and feels like doing. I practice being her.

I also talk about this in this podcast episode and blog post.

 

6. Remember: you can believe anything.

No matter what. And your life will reflect what you believe. So, what do you believe about your life? Money? Relationships? Your future? These beliefs determine how you feel, what you do, and your results.

This isn’t delusional. You could die tomorrow, but you choose not to believe that. You choose to believe you’re going to live. But you might not.

The most freedom there is, is to think and believe anything.

Even if everyone told you that you were a certain way for your whole life, you can just decide you’re not that way. Effective immediately.

For example, if you think you’ve always struggled with money, you can just stop believing that.

There are no rules.

 

7. Run the MODEL in your head at all times.

I talked about the Model in this blog post. It’s the way the world works.

Your thoughts cause your feelings. Your feelings cause your actions. Your actions cause your results. Circumstances are neutral.

When you start to use this tool in your daily life, you get all the authority back to design the life you want.

Instead of thinking there’s not enough, you’ll see that circumstances are neutral and you can make anything mean whatever you want.

The key is to start to see the world this way, so that you always have authority over your life.

It shifts your thinking from your life is happening to you, to your life is happening for you.

Another great resource for this is the book Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza (this book is a life changer!).

 

8. Always think about the words you say.

Whenever you speak, you give energy to something.

So, if you’re talking about a bad day, someone you’re mad at, or fight you’re in with your friend, you’re giving energy to it.

It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t talk about what’s going on in your life. But it does mean to do it carefully.

Instead of talking about something negative with allllll the people, try to talk with one or two people then move on.

I struggle with this one! I’m an extrovert and love to talk, so I will talk about anything.

One thing that keeps me in check is reminding myself ahead of speaking that I’m about to give energy to something if I talk about it. Then, I decide whether to talk about it or not.

 

9. Look at the results you have in your life.

Look at the results in your life. Your home, your job, your money, your friends, your spouse… all of these results were created in your mind first.

I remember when I first learned this. I thought, “why the hell did I create this apartment?!”

I immediately raised my standards. Now, I love my home. I literally can’t wait to get back to it when I travel.

This is great news.

It means if you don’t like your results, you can create something else.

Don’t worry about how.

How is none of your business.

Just focus on believing for now.

 

10. Add, “and that’s okay” to everything that sucks.

Life is 50-50 good and bad, so when you’re going through it (whether it’s a bad day, a death, a job loss—anything), add “and that’s okay” to whatever you’re thinking.

For example, if you just got laid off, you could say “I feel awful and that’s okay.”

What this does is it helps you remember that nothing has gone wrong. By doing this, you’re less likely to resist, react, or avoid your negative emotions.

I love this one!

 

11. Notice negative emotion is caused by your thoughts.

I talked about the Model in #7 above, but just for good measure, I want to point it out separately that all your feelings are caused by your thinking.

Everything you think causes a feeling. Want to change your feelings? Change your thoughts.

But don’t avoid, resist, or react to negative emotion. You’re an amazing human! Not a sociopath. So, when you’re rejected, when you have a fail, when someone does something that you don’t like… feel all the negative feels.

The goal is to experience the negative emotion without resisting, reacting, or avoiding it.

To do this, become the watcher of your feelings. Separate yourself from your feelings. Ask yourself what you’re feeling. Watch your feelings.

I really love this because it shows me I’m not my feelings and my feelings are completely optional.

 

12. Create a separate version of yourself.

One of the best ways I teach to start doing things you say you’re going to do is to create a “2.0 version” of yourself.

I teach this is Personal Development For Her. Basically what it means is, you make appointments with the 2.0 version of yourself. You love this 2.0 version more than anyone on the planet. You practice having your own back.

This is what it means to love yourself.

I really like this because it shows you want it’s like to honor, love, and respect yourself more than anyone else in your life. It’s a life changer.

 

13. Move up the scale of thinking.

When you’re transitioning from negative thoughts to positive thoughts (like in affirmations, #3 above), don’t go from “I’m not worthy” to “I am amazing.” Go to “I am a human being.”

Create neutral thoughts you believe. Practice the neutral thoughts.

Once neutral thoughts become beliefs, then move up the ladder again and create another thought that’s closer to the ideal thought.

A thought is just a sentence in your head. A belief is a thought you keep on believing so much that you believe it to be true.

The goal here is to make sure you’re actually creating new beliefs that become the default, abundant thinking for you.

 

*Bonus*

I couldn’t help myself, so here is one more for you…

Rewrite your past.

The past doesn’t exist anymore.

The past only exists as sentences in your head.

(This was super fun for me to learn for the first time, so I hope your mind is exploding right now.)

You can make the past mean whatever you want.

People can do things to you (horrible things), but you get to decide what you make it mean.

So, if you think you’ve had a tough past, here’s my challenge to you…

Tell the story of how you had the exact past you needed to in order to create your future.

THIS is real magic.

 

A Final Note!

If you feel like you’re stuck in scarcity in any area of your life, I know it can feel like crap and that there’s barely any possible way out of it.

But there is. And I’m here to help you do it.

Start with these mindset hacks.

They just might change your life. 🙂