I have the privilege for being a Certified Life Coach and helping so many women in my virtual life coaching program, Grow You.
If you’re new to this work, I suggest starting with a free training so you can learn more about living intentionally and what it’s like to have a life oach.
- You can sign up for this free training here: How To Live An Intentional Life Free Training.
In this post, I’m sharing the top 9 life coaching tools for high achieving women that you can start using today. I use these tools with all my clients and on myself. They’re incredibly powerful and will change your life.
9 Life Coaching Tools For High Achieving Women
Here are the 9 life coaching tools for high achieving women:
- Rewire your brain + mindset
- Feel negative emotion on purpose
- Stop beating yourself up
- Find your passion
- Set + achieve impossible goals
- Increase your productivity
- Stop being busy
- Make more money
- Coach yourself + get support
Each tool is really important to your own growth, and you can start implementing each right away.
I use these tools, and I know they work. They’ll help you manage your mind, change your life, and create the exact future you want.
Here’s a deeper look into each of the 9 life coaching tools…
1. Rewire your brain + mindset
The first (and arguably most important) tool is rewiring your brain and mindset.
From birth, we form neuropathways that help our brains make sense of the world. We basically come up with thoughts and stories so we can survive. Some of these are useful, while others are not.
The best way to make sure you’re optimizing your mindset is to take a look at what you’re currently thinking. When you understand how to manage your thoughts, you can design your exact future (regardless of the past you’ve had). Without managing your mind, you can’t.
Like taking a shower and cleaning your body, you need to spend time every day cleaning out your thinking and deciding what to think on purpose.
I used to make my student loans mean something negative about me. Once I changed my mindset and decided my student loans were happening for me, I was able to create my future exactly how I wanted (including changing careers, paying off debt, and making money online).
- 13 Mindset Hacks That Helped Me Shift From Scarcity To Abundance (blog post)
- Mindset Hacks (podcast)
- 7 Steps To Improve Your Mindset Right Now (blog post)
- The 5 Step Framework To Master Your Mindset And Design Your Dream Life (blog post)
2. Feel negative emotion on purpose
While managing your mindset is super duper important, you also have to practice feeling all the feelings. Why? Because your thoughts create your feelings, and your feelings determine how you act (or don’t act).
If you go arround practicing affirmations, but you don’t feel them, it won’t work. You need to create the exact feelings that you want. And you need to be comfortable experiencing all emotions.
The reason feeling negative emotion is a total gamechanger is that you will stop being so afraid of negative emotion, which means you’ll go for your dreams.
The end of every experience is an emotion. If you stop making negative emotion means so much, and you start being willing to experience any emotion, you’ll move forward. If you don’t, you’ll stay stuck, in confusion, and in fear.
Negative emotion is harmless. Our brains haven’t evolved to know that. But it’s true. What I help students do in Grow You is to feel negative emotion on purpose. To face it. To let it pass.
Feeling negative emotion is the highway to your dreams.
I feel failure all the time. I just don’t make it mean anything. That’s the secret.
- What To Do About Negative Emotions (blog post)
- How To Process Negative Emotions (YouTube video)
- Processing Negative Emotions (podcast)
- What To Do When Something Sucks (podcast)
- How To Solve Any Problem (podcast)
3. Stop beating yourself up
Something I see high achieving women do so much is beat themselves up.
It’s gotta stop! You don’t have to beat yourself up. In fact, it’s not serving you at all. It’s making it harder for you to achieve that thing you want to bad.
You can change and create the life you want through love, instead of being mean to yourself.
Most of us are meaner to ourselves than we’d ever be to someone we loved.
Practice loving yourself. Be curious. Have compassion. And most of all, stop beating yourself up.
4. Find your passion
Most people want to find their “passion” and this is understandable. It’s kind of become culturally acceptable to talk about “finding your passion.”
The truth is passion is an emotion.
All emotion is created by your thoughts.
If you want to feel passion, you need to think thoughts that create the feeling of passion.
This is always step one for my students and clients. Practicing feeling the emotion of passion.
Once you know what passion feels like (and that it’s an emotion you create from your thoughts), then you can look outside you to a new job to decide to create passion toward.
Most people mistakenly think they’ll stumble upon a job (circumstance) where they’ll all of a sudden be passionate about it. But this is impossible. Circumstances are neutral. A job will never give you passion. Passion is something you give yourself.
- How To Find Your Passion (blog post)
- How To Land Your Dream Job (And Make More Money) (podcast)
- How To Know When To Quit Your Job (blog post)
5. Set + achieve impossible goals
Setting and achieving impossible goals is a tool I’m obsessed with because of its power.
If you set an “impossible” goal, you bypass the part of your brain where you talk yourself out of it, and instead, you go for it anyway. This is super fun.
I set an impossible goal to make six figures online. Then I did it.
Now, my impossible goal is to make seven figures from my business.
What’s yours? Think about it.
- How To Set Goals (podcast)
- Design Your Dream Year From Your Future (podcast)
- 11 Secrets To Getting Motivated To Achieve Your Goals (blog post)
- My 4 Biggest Setbacks (blog post)
- Direction Vs. Intention (podcast)
6. Increase your productivity
When you do thought work and then practice feeling negative emotion, meanwhile you’re setting impossible goals, you’re setting yourself up for all kinds of success. The icing on this cake is to do productivity the right way.
This means that you focus on what you’re producing and not what the activity is, or what you’re “doing.”
Don’t “work on your blog from 2pm-4pm” put on your calendar that you’re going to write a blog post from 2pm-4pm. Then, you better hold yourself accountable to make that happen.
Most people are “working” instead of producing. When you leave the time and effort economy and enter the productivity economy, you will spend less time working and produce more. It’s better here. 🙂
- 21 Simple Ways To Be More Productive (blog post)
- How To Be More Productive (podcast)
- How To Be Productive When You’re Not Feeling Motivated (blog post)
7. Stop being busy
I teach my students and clients to rethink “busy.” When you say “I’m so busy” or “I don’t have time” you’re in time scarcity.
We all have the same amount of time in a day.
If you want more time, give yourself more time. Say no more. Delegate. Most of all, stop saying you don’t have time. Start saying, “I have plenty of time.” Doesn’t that feel good? It feels so good for me to say I have so much time. I love it.
8. Make more money
Making more money is something you need to consider to up-level your life.
The way you create more money is to provide more money to the market place. You don’t work harder or put in more effort or work longer hours. You simply provide more value. This is true regardless of how you make money (entrepreneur, freelancer, employee, etc.).
Money is always exchanged for value.
Want more money? Start thinking about how you can provide more value.
I’m constantly doing this in my business. I always want to provide more value and overdeliver.
- How Much Money Can You Really Make (podcast)
- Value Creates Money (Not Time) (blog post)
- The Make More Money Mindset (podcast)
- 7 Steps To Attract Money Into Your Life (blog post)
9. Coach yourself + get support
The final tool is to coach yourself and get support.
I coach myself every day, and I get life coaching through several coaches.
It’s changed my life forever.
In Grow You, there’s a bonus course on How To Coach Yourself. It has everything you need to get started with self-coaching.
Coaching is what takes you from where you are now to living an extraordinary life. There’s nothing like it, and I can’t imagine my life without it.
A Final Note!
These 9 life coaching tools changed my life, and I continue to use them to grow into the next version of myself.
If you haven’t already, jump in the free training right now: How To Live An Intentional Life.
This work is the most challenging, rewarding, and fun work I’ve ever done. It’s life changing.