How to change your life

No matter what has happened in your past, you have the ability to change your life for the better.

Super fun.

So, if you’re wondering how to change your life, I get it.

I’ve been there, and sometimes it’s hard to even know where to start.

I’m always looking to learn more by reading books and listening to podcasts.

So, I’ve come up with a list of 21 easy things you can do to change your life. 

Here they are…

1. Create meaning in your life

When you wake up in the morning, it’s easy to get out of bed when you believe your life has meaning.

I will tell you right now that your life has meaning, but it’s up to you to define what that meaning is.

If you’re in a place where you’re unsure what that meaning is, create it to be whatever you want.

You’re the only person who can decide what you care about, what you think, and how you feel.

A clear sense of purpose will help you make actionable steps in your life and help you be brave enough to overcome the obstacles that stand in your way.

Whether it’s earning more money, surrounding yourself with loving people or simply working towards being your best, you must create meaning in all the different areas of your life.



2. Design your future from your future (not your past)

If your past isn’t something you want to recreate, you need to design your future from your future.

Your brain wants to keep you safe.

Your brain knows that by repeating what you’ve already done, you will easily stay alive.

It’s time to break that pattern.

In order for you to do that, you need to get clear on what you want your future to look like and create a life based off that picture.

What does this version of yourself think about? What do they do daily?

Practice being this person, and eventually you will become them.

The future that you design from this moment will eventually be your present and you will have successfully stopped your past from repeating itself.


3. Rewrite your past so it happened exactly how it was supposed to

The events of the past are over.

What exists now are thoughts you have in your mind about those events.

Your thoughts about your past are what create the feeling you have about it.

Everything happened in the past EXACTLY how it was supposed to happen.

It’s up to you to rewrite it from the abundance mentality versus the victim mentality in order for your past to serve you in a positive way.

If you’re operating from the victim mentality, then you will think life is happening TO you. Your past will be the reason why you think you can’t achieve your dream future.

This is the story that you need to sit down with and edit. Trash it completely if you have to.

Rewrite the story of your childhood or your past from the abundance mentality, where it happened exactly the way it should have and it happened FOR you.


4. Get outside your comfort zone

Personal development means growing as a person.

To grow means to have new experiences, which often require you to get out of your comfort zone.

The more you get used to this, the easier it becomes.

Your comfort zone is designed to keep you safe.

The reason it’s called a comfort zone is because you are comfortable.

It can be hard to get outside this zone because your brain thinks that by doing so, you are no longer safe.

It doesn’t know the outcome of taking a risk, which makes it difficult to take them.

You will never know if you can do something until you try and it’s so important to push yourself to do more, if you want more.

If you’re living at home, but want to travel or buy your own place, the longer you stay in that home environment, the longer you lose out on the experiences you could be having.

When you do things that are outside your comfort zone, you learn new things.

Your brain expands because it has been shown that you did something differently and you didn’t die.

Expand your brain as much as possible by doing something that scares you.

Learn a new language, apply for that job you want, tell the person you love that you love them and no matter the outcome, be grateful that you did.

You will be infinitely better off for the things that you did despite how much they scared you instead of the alternative.


5. Eliminate flour and sugar from your diet

When you eliminate flour and sugar from your diet, you will experience greater mind clarity, better sleep, and a higher functioning body.

If you are a sweets person, and these two things bring you joy, consider how else you can satisfy your sweet tooth.

Flour and sugar were never meant to be digested by the human body.

What Mother Nature supplies is what will make you feel your best and be the best for you.

Take a moment to consider what it is that you love about these two ingredients.

Most of the time, you love them because they make you feel happy when you’re eating them.

Replace them with healthier alternatives that still make you happy and reap the benefits from this change for the rest of your life.


6. Practice self-love

Fall in love with yourself, every last bit of you.

The more you change your thoughts to reflect how you want other people to feel about you, the better you will feel.

Look in the mirror and talk lovingly to yourself.

Thank your legs for getting you from point A to point B, your brain for solving life’s constant questions and your heart for all the times you’ve survived heartbreak, big and small.

Take care of your insides by eating a well balanced diet and drinking the daily recommended amount of water.

If you’re stressed, give your body rest.

Self-love comes in all different forms and it’s up to you to figure out what it means to you.

The more you practice self-love, the better you become at it.

The way you treat yourself sets the tone for how others treat you.

Additionally, put yourself first so that you can give your best self to those around you.

Have your own back and take care with your thoughts by practicing self-love on a daily basis.


7. Stop caring what other people think

What other people think of us is none of our business.

The truth is, you can’t control other people’s opinions of you.

If you put someone else’s opinion ahead of your own, you’ll be out of your own integrity.

You won’t be yourself and you will feel awful as a result.

The most important question to answer is what do you think about you?

If you have an amazing opinion of yourself and someone disagrees with you and doesn’t like you… they’re automatically wrong because they don’t agree with something you know to be true.

When you love yourself the most, you aren’t being selfish. You’re showing up whole, so you can love other people.

Part of loving someone is letting them be them.

People are going to judge you anyways, so you might as well be judged for being someone that you love!


8. End things intentionally (relationships, jobs, etc.)

Simplify your life by only keeping the things that are essential to you.

There will be seasons in your life where some things no longer fit, such as relationships or jobs, and when you leave them with intention, it feels much better than leaving them because you feel you have to.

To build the life you want, you have to trim the nonessentials so that you’re surrounded by things that light you up and serve a purpose in your life.

You have to leave room to focus on them.

Intentional living means valuing life so much that you decide how you want to live ahead of time.


9. Get good at committing

When you get good at committing, your self confidence soars.

Not only are you able to count on yourself to do the things you say you are going to do, but you become dependable to the people around you.

You no longer have to stress about your to-do list because you know that what you’ve set your mind to will get done.

The bucket list you’ve set out to accomplish will happen when it’s supposed to.

Anxiety that stems from procrastination and the inability to commit is no longer something you have to suffer from.

The more you commit, the better acquainted you become with what it is you want to commit to, which in turn makes you better at commitment.


10. Figure out money

If you love having money in the bank, but are afraid to deal with it, then it’s important for you to figure out money.

Money doesn’t have to be something you dread and it will serve you to get out of scarcity mindset sooner rather than later.

How you feel about your money is your relationship with it.

If you want new and different results with money, you have to change your thoughts and feelings about the money you have.

So, decide to change your relationship with having money starting now by deciding to change your thoughts about it.

When you open your bank account, how do you feel?

Identify this feeling and pinpoint what thought is making you feel this way.

Figure out what it is you want to feel and think about money.

If you want to love the money in your bank account, then you want to focus on a feeling of love.

You might come up with the following sentence that you believe generates the feeling of love for you: “I am so grateful for the money I have right now.”

Start rehearsing this new thought until it becomes a belief.

Start experiencing the feeling you want to feel when you log into your bank account.

Once you figure out money, your relationship with it becomes easy. It no longer has to be something you stress about, which will result in you bringing in more money and more importantly, holding on to it.


11. Practice generosity

The more you give, the more you get back and what you put out into the world is your legacy.

Be remembered for being generous, even when it’s hard.

There will always be people who are less fortunate than you, therefore there’s always a reason to be grateful and there are always places to practice generosity.

Be generous with your love as we only have this one life to live.

Be generous with your money as there will always be more available to you.

Be generous with your time as you will have more quality experiences when you spend your time doing good.

It takes trust to be generous because people may not receive it in a way you think they should.

Let go of the expectation of how you think it should go, and be generous because it feels good.

The good news is, there are so many ways to be generous, which in turn means there are so many ways to feel good.

Instilling generosity as a way of life can impact the world in a huge way. And as a side effect, you’ll be happier, too.


12. Learn how to experience negative emotion

Bad things happen all the time. They always have and always will.

With every negative emotion you feel, there is a chance for growth.

Once you learn how to best handle experiencing a negative emotion, then it becomes easier for you to navigate your way through them.

Try to embrace having negative emotions instead of trying to suppress them.

What’s so bad about negative emotion? It’s not going to physically kill you.

When you understand this, you’ll be more available to feel.

When a friend is sad, you let them be sad and give them a shoulder to lean on.

Do this same thing for yourself.

You are allowed to experience negative emotions.

Fear, sadness, anxiousness, disappointment; these are all inevitable emotions that your daily life will bring because that is just the way the world works.

Emotions are just vibrations in your body.

Notice how the emotion feels, where it is, and practice watching the feeling instead of reacting, resisting, or avoiding it.

A positive way to deal with experiencing a negative emotion is to reframe your thinking by asking yourself supportive questions that lead to answers you want.

Ask yourself “how can this make me stronger, smarter, or better off in the future?”

When something goes wrong for me, I’m able to think about what kind of story it will make. When I went through a break up or when I didn’t pass the CFP for the first time, I knew that those moments would be great stories in my future.

By reframing your thinking when it comes to negative emotion, it can be come a helpful tool for growth and you’ll no longer be fearful of experiencing these kinds of emotion.


13. Never stop learning

There will always be something to learn.

With the endless amounts of information out there, you have the opportunity to recreate yourself on a whim.

There are books, podcasts, classrooms, and cultures waiting for you to devour them and they’re yours should you choose to take advantage of them.

When we learn new things, we become more adaptable. When we become more adaptable, by default, we become more confident.

Your creativity, compassion, and curiosity are expanded and being a student of life becomes a part of who you are.

Even when you’ve been in your career for 10+ years, there are things that you may not know yet.

The world is ever-changing, meaning that in order to keep up, we must always be learning.


14. Get really good at decision-making

By getting really good at decision-making, you will free up so much mental space.

Here’s the thing — whatever you decide is the right decision for you to make right now.

That goes for everything you decide on.

Take the agony of deliberating out of the equation and free yourself from doubt that you may make the wrong decision.

Tony Robbins said, “your destiny is shaped in your moments of decision.”

Being better at decision-making is a definitive way to shape your destiny in a positive way and change your life for the better.


15. Stop dabbling

More isn’t always more.

If you’re dabbling in a lot of things instead of mastering a few, you’re doing yourself a disservice.

With so many opportunities at your fingertips, you must choose what’s right for you in this moment and stick to it.

Do a few things really, really well instead of doing a lot of things just okay.

By doing this, six months from now you can be in a completely different place.

Commit to the things you decide to put your energy behind and when they no longer serve you on your path to your highest self, reevaluate.

Add things only when you take away others to stop dabbling and start mastering.


16. Move your body daily

Exercising gives you energy, helps relieve stress, and helps you get fit.

It doesn’t have to be painful.

Find ways to move your body that you love and you’ll be more inclined to do it.

A quick 30 minute walk is going to do wonders for you, especially if you’re someone with a sedentary job.

Take care of your body by moving it and keeping it in prime condition to help you live your life to your liking.

In the end, it will make you feel better and more confident.

When you exercise, you have the chance to give your mind a break from daily stressors and work.

Take the time to meditate on positive thinking while you’re moving your body and come out of your workout feeling refreshed and ready to take on the world.

You will be surprised what can come to you when you get silent and take the time to take care of yourself.


17. Use constraint to optimize your life

Take a moment to write down your wants in life.

When you look over them, how many of them are actual needs?

We have a tendency to always be wanting more, while never taking a moment to pause and reflect on all that we have within our current constraints.

It requires patience, creativity, and practice to use constraint and be content.

When you learn to live with constraint, happiness is no longer a destination, but something that you can just choose to be.

The fewer options, the more simplicity, freedom, and success you have.


18. Never indulge in “I don’t know”

“I don’t know” keeps you stuck.

There will inevitably be things that you don’t know as you go about your life.

This is completely normal, but it’s not something you should settle for.

There are always ways to get out of the “I don’t know” mindset and therefore you should always strive to do that.

To do this, ask yourself supportive questions.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t know, focus on what you do.

Whether it has to do with figuring out where you want your career to go or if you want to stay in a relationship, answer the questions that you know the answers to and go from there.

For example, if you’re unsure of what kind of business you want to start ask yourself questions about it. Questions like, “what would be the most fun business for me to start?” or “how can I make more money online?”

There are a million things we don’t know, but that doesn’t mean when we don’t know something that we should indulge in it and let it remain that way.

Train your brain to get around “I don’t know.”


19. Get to know yourself

Some people go their entire lives without pausing to ask themselves if they know who they are at their core.

The more you get to know yourself, the better suited you are to change your life.

If you don’t know what you need to change in the first place, then how are you going to be able to go about doing it?

Ask yourself about your passions, your fears, or why you do things.

If you’re having a tough time coming to concrete answers, ask a friend.

Ask them to tell you about yourself. Let them know that they can be as honest as they want (just be prepared to potentially not like some of the answers).

The more self awareness you have about yourself, the less you will let the outside world tell you who you are.

When you already know who you are, you get to decide.


20. Focus on one goal at a time

Your time is better spent by focusing on one goal at a time, instead of focusing on too many goals at once and using more energy.

Use your time effectively by picking a goal to focus on and breaking it down into smaller parts.

Accomplish each individual part before moving on to the next one.

You will have an easier time reaching a goal if you do this practice with one goal instead of focusing on all of them at the same time.

Your goals could change or take a new shape, therefore by focusing on one at a time, you can be flexible with any changes that may happen.

All of your goals should be SMART, in my opinion. This is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely.

By taking small steps towards your goals, you are able to create momentum and avoid burning yourself out.

If you are working on a goal, stop making failure mean something is wrong.

With every new goal you achieve, you become more confident in yourself to achieve all the rest!


21. Choose a lifetime of growth

My business is centered around helping women design their dream lives.

In order for them to work towards their dream life, they have to be willing to change, adapt and grow on a consistent basis.

Once they realize that their dream life is only the beginning of what they can accomplish, they have a choice — a lifetime of growth or a lifetime of settling.

Choose a lifetime of growth and choose it over and over again.

When you create your future from your future, you will no doubt grow into it.

It’s a practice that you will be using as you consistently crush your goals.

If you have more questions than you have answers, then there is always room for growth.

At every level of growth, there is more discomfort.

Deliberate discomfort is deliberate growth.

Become okay with discomfort and you will be ready to take on a lifetime of growth.


A Final Note!

Start by implementing a few of these things into your life.

Be okay with where you are now while you pursue changing your life for the better with this list.

You have total freedom in what you think and believe and can create the results you want.

Your dream life is within reach with a little focus and commitment.