Are you someone who struggles to get ready in the morning?
Rolling out of bed, throwing on yoga pants, and getting to the first item on your to-do list might seem like the best way to go about your day, but the truth is it’s not.
There’s a much better way, and it’s about becoming the person you want to be right now through how you show up, including how you dress every day.
In this episode, I show you how you can get started showing up 100% every day and why it’s so important to start right now.
Here are resources to go along with this podcast episode:
- How To Stop Being Busy (free training)
- How To Show Up As Your Best Every Day (blog post)
- Direction Vs. Intention (podcast)
- How To Predict Your Future (blog post)
- Dream Year: How To Accomplish Your #1 Goal This Year And Feel Good Doing It (book + workbook)
- Personal Development For Her (course)
Full Episode Transcript
Welcome to the Design Your Dream Life podcast where it’s all about designing your life on your terms and now your host, Natalie Bacon.
Hello, my beautiful, gorgeous friend. If you have not looked in the mirror and told yourself that you are beautiful, I want you to do that today. Right after you listen to this. I want to talk with you today about getting ready for your day every single day. I have noticed recently that people kind of have been commenting on how I show up and really get ready every single day even though I don’t have to.
I work from home and I literally could wear sweat pants every day if I wanted to and I don’t. I do full hair, full makeup, full outfit, like most times heels. But if I am going out to work somewhere outside of my home, I might wear flats if I’m gonna walk. But either way, it’s always like a nice pair of shoes. So I’m always looking my best and there’s really no exception to this.
I don’t let my workouts interfere with this. I don’t let it being a Monday or a Friday, change my mind. It’s just who I am and I want to offer to you that this is something that you might want to consider doing and that there is so much more value to it than physical looks. Okay. This is not why I do it. I do it because I really believe it makes me feel better and show up differently.
I like to think of going out to brunch with a group of girlfriends and you are the one who shows up with your a game and then someone else shows up in their a game and you like appreciate it. You notice that they’re, there showing up, taking the time out of their day, looking their best and it has a positive impact on the energy of the group and on your thoughts about your relationship with that person and contrast that with someone else who shows up in sweats or their workout gear and they look like they just rolled out of bed and it’s not about you, it’s about them, right?
They’re not showing up for their life. And you kind of have thoughts like, Oh well this wasn’t important to them and whatever else you may be thinking about it, but it changes kind of the energy. And you know this, if you’ve gone out to brunch or to dinner or whatever, and this has happened. Or if you run into someone at the grocery store or wherever else on the street and they are not looking their best, and it’s not like it impacts you, but you can tell they’re having some thoughts about it. Because if you’re anything like me, you’ve been on the other side of that where you have been in sweats and no makeup, and it almost brings about this lower energy and then you run into someone and they’re looking like they’re freaking best, right? It’s always how it happens and you’re like, Oh yeah, you know, I’m just not looking my best right now.
And you just, you can’t possibly have the high energy that you want if you’re showing up in your life like that. And I really think that if you’re not used to this, it almost feels like you’re being really, really fancy all of a sudden. But I promise you, just like any other habit, if you start to do this and you do it daily, you will adjust and that will be your normal. So if this is brand new to you, what I would start doing is to start with like one thing at a time and then incorporate it every single day. Not like Monday, Wednesday, Friday. Not sometimes, not when you feel like it every single day. And maybe it is just during the week, but I prefer to do it like all the time. But I do think the only way you could break it up would be the difference between the week and the weekend.
But if you’re really someone who’s showing up for your life, no matter what, you’re gonna this seven days a week because it’s who you are. So I would start small and do something like, okay, no matter what, I just, I do my hair every single day. And then it’s like, no matter what I do my makeup every single day. Now this doesn’t mean that you have to be more extreme with your hair or makeup, but for whatever looking your best is to you it means you do that. It’s taking care of yourself, it’s taking care of your body and showing up as if this day really matters because you matter, right? It really does matter and you will like yourself more and you’ll treat yourself better if you do this.
So I want you to think about your body and your appearance and how you show up every day. And imagine that you are in a relationship with it. And if your body and appearance could talk, what would it say to you about that relationship? Would it say that you treat it well? Would it say that you show it a lot of respect? Would it say that you take good care of it, right? What do you put in your body and on your body? So what are you eating? What are you drinking? What are you wearing? How are you showing up? For whatever reason whenever I do this kind of relationship question, it really helps me get real about, Oh, I am showing up for whatever reason. It adds like a third party element to it and it’s like, okay, well yeah, my appearance would say I don’t care that much about it. I’m not treating it well. I don’t prioritize it, whatever the case may be.
But it brings this awareness to it and how it’s affecting your life. Not only is this just going to energize you and are you going to have positive thoughts about yourself when you do show up like this, but also it’s going to help you become the person you want to be. So I talk a lot about being future focused and becoming her ahead of time and in Grow You the coaching program, which if you haven’t joined, go to NatalieBacon.com/coaching you can get more information about it there, but what I’m noticing is that a lot of students are asking how they can start to have the thoughts and feelings about the person they’re trying to become. They want to manifest her. You do this by thinking about what that person would be thinking about, but it’s a little bit hard in the beginning and you can do it one step at a time.
But something that I haven’t taught yet that I want to teach you right now is that you should dress like her as well because this will help you kind of step into that role, step into the person you want to be. It’s kind of like the saying like show up for the job that you want to dress for, the job that you want. It’s just like that, like dress for the person who you want to be. And I’m sure that if you’re listening to this podcast and you’re setting goals and you have this future focused vision for your life, she’s probably not just like rolling out of bed, not caring about herself. She probably loves herself and it might mean that it’s just a nice pair of jeans and a nice top. But the point is that it’s thoughtful that you actually put some intention behind how you’re showing up every day that you take care of yourself just for you.
So I think most people are fascinated by me doing this because I actually work from home. So even on days, like if I don’t have any video or anything like that, I am fully dressed, fully makeup, full hair for me. Like I like to look nice. I really do. I like to take care of myself in that way and I feel better about myself and my life and my day. And there’s just really no exception. So when you start to do this, you might feel like extra fancy in the beginning, but then you’ll get used to it. And this will just be who you are.
And along the same lines, I want you to think about what you are wearing. And I want you to put some intention behind your wardrobe. This doesn’t mean you have to go out and get a new wardrobe. It just means that you start to have a vision of who you want to dress like and as and that you start to accumulate clothes that fit into that vision and start to get rid of clothes that don’t.
So for me, I did this a few years ago and my entire wardrobe is completely different. I think that happened within a year because I just constrained to only wear neutrals, so only wear neutrals and I prefer pointy shoes and really dainty jewelry. If you just do those rules, you will have like a classy, sophisticated look and you can also make it trendy, whatever you want. But you don’t have to do that. Right? That’s just me and my preferences and who I want to show up as. You can do it completely differently. But I want you to notice that who you show up as on a day to day should be consistent. So it’s one thing to walk by a store and like really like an outfit versus to walk by a store and say, Oh, that’s so me.
So before I had these rules and constraints and my life with clothes, I would just buy anything I liked. So what happened was I had this hodgepodge wardrobe that didn’t really have any kind of consistency to it. And so every day it was a lot more decision making for me because I still did want to show up looking my best but I had so many options. And now what is true is that I’m constrained to neutrals and everything kind of can be mixed and matched together. Everything looks really, really good together. So that’s what I want for you.
So I want you to think about who you want to be and who that person would show up as and what they would be wearing. You know, maybe it’s not neutrals, maybe it’s really bright colors, but it’s probably very polished and very put together like everything fits well because even if you have a funky style, it’s still gonna be you showing up as someone who cares about themselves, which means everything should fit and you should be showing up your best.
You don’t have to adopt the neutrals or look like me by any means. Look like you. But decide on purpose what you want to be wearing. Decide what kind of makeup you generally want to wear. Decide how you want to treat your skin and your hair and how you want to show up every single day. And I kind of like to live by the rule that it’s better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed.
And I think this actually goes to a little bit of self confidence. So if you haven’t really worked on your own self confidence, you might feel really nervous to be someone who’s overdressed. And I think this could almost be a good dare of the day. Something I teach in Grow You in the Confidence Course, but it’s where you go out into the world and you kind of push yourself to do something you normally wouldn’t do. It’s kind of like your dare of the day and maybe being overdressed is your dare of the day. And it might put you in a situation where people might even comment like, Oh, you’re really dressed up right? But you get to a point where it’s like, don’t drop down to other people’s levels. Like bring them up to you.
Those comments to me now don’t even phase me. I, they don’t mean anything to me. I love being a little bit overdressed. I love showing up. Like I care. Like this day matters. You know, I used to hear people say like they would just save their good jewelry for like the once a year or even if it’s five times a year when they’re going to like a friend’s wedding or something like that. And it’s like, no, that’s such a small amount of time. And what about all of the other days?
What about your life? So I wear my jewelry. I show up. I quite literally would do the same hair and makeup typically on any day. Even like if I was just going to work versus going out at night, you know, maybe if a wedding I would do more extreme makeup. But that’s it. Like everything else is the same every single day and it gives me this energy and it helps me take my life seriously and live on purpose. And I’m constantly being asked how I have so much energy and I think this is part of it.
I love my life and I like myself and now I don’t want this to be confused with all of a sudden you start dressing up and then you don’t have problems and things aren’t hard and you don’t have negative emotion. That’s not true at all, but I’m deciding on purpose, who I want to be, and I’m kind of coming at the day with an attitude of like, bring it on. I can handle anything. Okay? It’s like showing up as the next version of myself knowing that I know where I’m going, knowing that I’m building a seven figure business and I’m a CEO and who does she dress up as and how seriously I take how I look because it’s a reflection of what I think about myself.
Now, this doesn’t mean that only the physical matters and that, right? Not at all. I think we focus so much on the internal and that’s the most important, right? Your character, your integrity, who you are, but I’m telling you, even if you do all that work and you’re not showing up as your best self every day, there’s going to be a misalignment. You’re not going to feel good. It’s like running into that person and you’re in your sweats and you you know, haven’t showered and you’re like, Oh gosh, I don’t want to see her.
Right. It’s like you want to be the person who is able to pop on a video at any time because you show up for yourself and it’s really important that you’re doing it for you, not for someone else, and this might be new to you if you’re new to like self love work, but I like to think of it kind of like separating myself from myself and what I teach in Personal Development For Her. You can go to PersonalDevelopmentForHer.com that’s my course. The self paced course I teach you to create a you 2.0 so there’s you and then there’s you 2.0 and it’s like how do you want to treat you 2.0 ?
We often will treat our friends and our family and the people we love the most better than we treat ourselves. It’s like we don’t miss appointments with other people we show up for other people more consistently than we show up for ourselves. And what I want you to understand is that that relationship with yourself is so powerful and you can give yourself that love and that attention and the care and affection and then you bring that into the world instead of going out to the world and looking for it externally. It’s like when you give it to yourself and part of that is showing up everyday and getting ready every single day your experience of the life will be better and you will be living at a higher level so you will quite literally give that away to other people and people will like to be around you more and you’ll just experience the world in a better way. So a lot people will want to wait until they accomplish something in order to do this.
So I hear this a lot with people who want to lose weight. They don’t want to buy new clothes and they don’t want to look nice and dress up and take care of themselves until they lose the weight. And I want to let you know that this is totally backwards. Instead of trying to get the result, then become the person with the result. You have to do it the other way around. You have to be the person who has the result first and then you get the result. So it’s like becoming her on purpose ahead of time. So let’s say your goal is to lose weight. I want you to practice loving yourself now and taking care of yourself now and putting nice clothes on your body now and showering and getting ready every day now. And then when you have that care and attention and love for yourself, then you become the person ahead of time who wants to lose the weight.
It’s not the other way around. If you try to disapprove of and kind of beat yourself up into losing the weight, right? There’s so much willpower required and it’s usually short term and it feels really, really bad. So I want you to love yourself. Sometimes I’ve been getting really into like the woo woo stuff and it’s like I think about just statistically how lucky I am to have a body at all. And this really helps me get out of the comparison trap, right? So I’ve talked to them about how I used to wish that my legs were shaped differently and I would look at other people’s legs and be like, Oh, she has such nice legs. Like that was kind of where my brain would immediately look to for comparing for someone else’s body was the legs. And now I’m like, no, no, no, no. I have the most perfect body.
Right? And by perfect I mean imperfect in the best way. It’s perfect for me. This is my body. How lucky am I to have a body and how do I want to treat my body with the care and respect and and not in an indulgent way. So I’m not like getting my nails done and working out to make myself feel better in order to escape negative emotion and the problems like, Oh, that was so hard. And I went through this thing. So now I’m going to go get a manicure and pedicure to feel better. That’s not what I’m doing. I’m approaching it on the other side saying, this is my body. I want to take care of it. I want to have nice nails. I want to do my hair every day because I love myself and I want to take care of myself every single day.
And then I bring that intention with me every single day. And again, like if this is new to you, I think the best thing you can do is start with like that minimum baseline where you just incorporate one thing. It’s just really important that you do one small thing every single day instead of doing all of it one day a week. So don’t just say, okay, on Fridays I’m going to look my best and every Friday and look my best because it will be hard for you to become that person only one day a week. Instead, I would suggest saying, okay, every single day going forward, I’m going to just do my hair. That’s the small thing I’m going to do. Or maybe it’s your makeup or maybe it’s your outfit. So I pick out my outfit the night before. I have been doing this my entire life. Literally, my mom used to make me do it before school and I never stopped.
I literally, no matter where I live, I get a little hook and I put it somewhere in my room near my closet and the night before because I like to make easy decisions at night. I can get them out of the way. I don’t like to use a lot of decision making power for things that aren’t super important in the morning. So I always every night pick out what I’m gonna wear the next day and I do this um, consistently and I put it on my little hook, get it out of the closet, put it on my hook, and then it’s there and I know that’s what I’m going to wear and I pop out of bed and I do that in the morning and I shower and get ready. So for you, you can pick one thing. Maybe it’s picking up the outfit the night before or maybe it is you know, the hair or the makeup.
Just pick one thing and do that every single day. And now you might come up with reasons why this isn’t possible, but I want you to remember why you’re doing this. So if you’re doing this to become the person you want to become, isn’t it worth it to find a way for it to be possible? Like I’ve heard people say, Oh well I work out in the middle of the day. It’s like, okay, well then you have to solve for that. You can’t just say, okay, now I’m not going to show up every day. It’s like I’m going to show up every day and now I’m going to have to, what? What’s, what are you going to have to do? Like find extra time before and after your workout to change and to shower or what? Again, like whatever the case may be, but your brain will likely default to why this is a problem or why this might not work for you.
And I just want to encourage you to talk back to your brain and say, okay, well what if this was possible? What can I do to make this possible? How can I solve this obstacle? Because you want to do it because of who you want to become and who you want to be every single day and to like yourself. Like it feels really, really good to like yourself and to do this intentionally. And I promise you like if you start this today and you just like every month add one little thing extra. So it’s like, okay, starting today, I’m going to shower every morning no matter what and I’m going to do my hair. And then in a month you add onto that, picking out your outfit and then a month later you add onto that, always doing your makeup. In three months you’re showing up every day as your best self.
And in a year from now, it’s like you’re the one who always shows up and you feel really good and you’re a little bit fancier in your own way, whatever style that is, but you’re living on purpose with intention and you bring that energy to your day. I think this is so underrated. I hear so many solopreneurs and entrepreneurs and they’re all talking about wearing yoga pants at home and just kind of on the couch and you bring that energy with you. It doesn’t matter if no one sees you, you’re the person, you’re the one who is creating the thoughts and the feelings that are going out into your experience of the world and you are going to attract that into your life. So if you want to build a six figure business or a seven figure business, you have to be that CEO who shows up every day who does that.
And I want that for you. So even if you don’t see anyone, I still want you to do this for yourself because of who you will become in the doing of it. It’s really, really transformational. So I’m kind of excited for you to do this. I think this is just something that I’ve done for so long that I’ve known has had an impact on my life. So I’m curious to hear how it goes for you.
So if you do this, do it for a little while, whether it’s a week or two weeks, and email me [email protected] and just let me know that you did it and let me know your experience of it. I’m just curious. I’d love to hear how it goes for you. All right, so starting today or tomorrow, if you’re listening to this later in the day, get ready for the day and make it an amazing one. I will talk to you next week. Bye bye.
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