Jim Rohn, a motivational speaker and businessman, famously said that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This statement, while not scientific, is widely accepted and acknowledged as true.
What This Means
What this means is that your environment (specifically the people in it) has a huge impact on who you become. You are a chameleon and peer pressure has an impact on you. And it is not just you — we are all like this. We all become like the people with whom we associate.
You pick up on little things that people do (without even realizing it) and it shapes and changes how you do things and who you become. You are influenced greatly by the people in your inner circle. Whether you are growing and moving toward your goals and living the life you want to live may be a direct result of who you are hanging around. This means that you need to be intentional with whom you choose to associate if you care about who you become in the future.
Why It Matters
You have the power to control who you become. Not only internally through personal development, but by choosing with whom you associate. If you associate with people who are smarter than you, wealthier than you, kinder than you, and who are more successful than you, you will become like these people. Conversely, if your inner circle consists of negative, sarcastic people who are irresponsible and lazy, that is what your future holds for you.
You will grow to become like your inner circle in ways you couldn’t through reading books or attending seminars. The power of our environment is so great that you can influence your whole life by taking control of who is in your inner circle.
If you want to become rich, start hanging out with rich people. If you want to be nicer, get nicer friends. If you want to be successful, befriend other successful people. Whatever you want your future to look like, get around people who are already doing it. It’s the easiest and most effective way to shape and change your future.
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